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Hi,

Have you ever met somebody who seemed to be able to convince anybody to do anything, just by talking to them. You know, like the salesman who can “sell ice to Eskimos?”

Ever wonder how some people can do it, and others can’t?

Well, one way that you can really influence other people by talking to them is by using conversational hypnosis.

What is conversational hypnosis?

When I say conversational hypnosis I am not talking about putting people into deep trances like a certified hypnotist would do in his office.

What I mean is using language that distracts or gets past the person’s conscious mind so you can speak to or make suggestions to the person’s subconscious mind. When you speak to the subconscious, you are using conversational hypnosis.

One of the best at doing this is a guy named Robert Dilts. He calls this kind of language “sleight of mouth.” He says that language is really a “map” of our “world,” and that no two people live in the same world. (Deep, huh?)

What he means is that every person sees the world in a different way, and they use language to both talk about their world (describe it), and to actually create their world.

So basically, what Dilts is saying is that when you talk about something in a certain way, you actually begin to think about that thing in that way. For example, if you are always saying things like, “I hate school” then you will hate school. You are actually making yourself hate school by saying you hate school.

So what does this have to do with conversational hypnosis?

Just like you can make yourself hate school, you can also make other people hate school by constantly talking to them about how much you hate school.

Have you ever heard the phrase “attitudes are contagious.” Well, they are. And one reason they are is because the words people use both reflect, but also influence their attitudes. But the mind blowing thing is that these words also influence the attitudes of your friends.

So if you hang around a group of friends who are constantly talking about how terrible and a waste of time school is… you will all start to believe the that school is terrible and a waste of time. You heard that right! The words you use will create that reality for you.

This is because words are powerful! One of the reasons words are so powerful is that the subconscious mind soaks them up like a sponge.

You may not realize it, but your subconscious mind is always aware of what is going on around you, as well as inside you. Most of your thinking actually happens in the subconscious, and the subconscious can be influenced by what you say, and by what others say. So if you use the right kinds of words you can really change the way you, and others, see the world.

Next, we’ll talk about what are the right kinds of words… and that’s when it really gets interesting.

All for now,
Rob

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One way to really change the way someone feels about something is to use words that make the person see the thing in a different way. I call this “reframing.”

The classic example of reframing is “the glass is not half empty, it’s half full.” In this reframe you are trying to get the person to see the positive side of things, and not focus on the negative side.

You can use reframing for more complex things by changing some very simple words in a sentence. For example, think about the difference between these three sentences:

“It’s beautiful outside today, but it’s going to be cloudy tomorrow.”

“It’s beautiful outside today, and it’s going to be cloudy tomorrow.”

“It’s beautiful outside today, even though it’s going to be cloudy tomorrow.”

Each of these sentences describes the same thing, but by changing just one or two words you change the way you think about each day. Read these three again and think about how each makes you feel about the weather today, and tomorrow. Notice the difference?

There are a lot of different ways to reframe things.

You can use words that make the “frame” bigger, so the person you are talking to can see “the big picture.”

Like, when a person is at a store and is worried about buying a pair of shoes because she knows that a store across town has the same pair for a few dollars less, you may say something like, “Wow, I know that the other store has the same pair for a couple dollars less, but that’s an hour away. How much gas do you think you would use up driving over there?”

You can also reframe the context of a situation.

Friend: “Man! I really wanted to go to the beach today but its so windy outside… it wouldn’t be any fun.”

You: “Ya, it wouldn’t be much fun sitting on the beach in the wind, but look at the wave! It would be a great day for surfing!”

Another type of reframe is the content reframe.

Friend: “Can you believe that guy! He just passed us doing a hundred miles an hour! What a jerk!”

You: “He was going pretty fast. He had his emergency lights on, maybe he is going to the hospital.”

So you can see how changing the language you use can actually change someone’s attitude about things.

Reframing is very powerful because it is a type of conversational hypnosis.

When you reframe things you actually distract the person’s conscious mind and force him to think deeper and listen to his subconscious mind.

The person does not go into a deep trance like you would expect in a hypnotist’s office, but he does look inward to the subconscious to think differently about things.

Learn more about conversational hypnosis and reframing, and try it out.

Ok,that’s all for now. See you soon,
Rob

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